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My 4 year old's best friend from nursery is a lovely little girl. Her mum though. Every playdate she criticises something: my house is "so brave" to have white sofas, my son is "very loud isn't he", I'm "so relaxed" about snacks.
My son adores her daughter and keeps asking for playdates. Do I just suck it up for his sake?
Do park playdates. Less time sitting face to face, more time watching kids. Plus a time limit naturally. 'Right, we need to head off for lunch.'
"So brave" about white sofas is quite a passive aggressive thing to say. I'd stop hosting. If you meet at soft play or the park there's nothing to comment on.
Or once they're a bit older, drop-off playdates! At 4 that might be early depending on the kids, but by Reception it's normal to do a 2 hour drop off. Problem solved.
Some people are just awkward and nervous and come across badly. Give her one more chance? Then go with the park idea.
@Lou2Boys maybe. She does seem quite anxious generally. I'll try a park one and see.
Bring a flask of coffee. Hand her one. Hard to be snippy with someone who just gave you coffee.
From a nanny who does a lot of playdates with parents present: the "so brave" comments are often nerves. Not always, but often. The park is a great idea because everyone's attention is on the kids and nobody's sizing up anyone's kitchen.
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