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Before kids I had a big group of friends from uni. We went out every weekend, holidays together, the lot. I'm the first to have a baby and two years on I barely hear from them. I got invited to a hen do recently and it felt like an afterthought.
I don't blame them, I can't go out on a Friday night anymore and I bang on about nap schedules. But it's lonely. Did your old friendships survive?
Some did, some didn't. The ones that did came back properly once they had their own kids. Give it a few years, it's often a phase not an ending.
It goes both ways. I was the child-free friend once and I stopped inviting my mum friend out because she always said no. I thought I was being considerate. Turns out she just wanted to be asked. Maybe tell them you still want invites even if you can't always go.
lost loads. made new ones at nursery drop off. different but still friends. the nursery friends get it more
Suggest daytime things. Brunch, a walk. A lot of my child-free friends didn't realise I could do daytime when they just assumed I couldn't do anything at all.
Yasmin that's a really good point. I might have been saying no so much they stopped asking. Going to send a message about a Sunday brunch.
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